|Posted on March 9, 2017 at 8:25 PM|
Imagine being a newlywed and having to decide whether to stay or go almost from the start. Today, I'm pleased to have yet another guest blogger--a Reader as Writer--join us during our Women's History Month discussion. You know I like to keep it real here at StillSoSexy!--real issues for real women. And for me, this sister has kept it ever so real as she shares her womanhood wilderness experience with us. Read her story to see how she handled her business and kept her power.
A Bride's Blues: Do I Stay or Go?
By Felicia WA
For those newlyweds who are just starting out and something devastating and/or traumatic happens…hang in there and pray about it. I’ll tell a short snippet of my story.
I had married a wonderful man in 2011 and our wedding was like one of a fairy tale…just beautiful. We had a family of seven, five children (he had four and I had two). Some months down the road, FBI and police are surrounding my home looking for my new husband of four months. Needless to say, I was devastated and traumatized when they took him. For months, I went to his court hearings that were more than an hour or two away. He was sentenced to three years (actually two but who’s counting?).
During the beginning of this time, I didn’t know what to do. I went into deep depression and started losing weight and then had five children that I was supposed to take care of. Sorry to say, I couldn’t take care of them all. I had to let his children stay with their grandparents. After four months of marriage, I was having a really hard time wondering if I was going to stay with this man or not. For about six months to a year, I was unsure of what I was going to do. I cried, I prayed, and I cried some more. There was no one I knew that I could turn to and have them understand what I was going through. NO ONE!
I felt alone and searched for support groups online. I had found one, but it wasn’t doing it for me. I eventually decided that I loved this man, wanted to stay true to my marriage vows (that we said three times lol), and stick it out with him through this ordeal. He was never closer than an hour and a half, but as his wife, I visited him. At one point, he was in Kentucky, which was a long way from home for us. But I went to visit him, and on one occasion I took all the kids. He was finally released in 2014.
So here we are in 2017. We still have our ups and downs, but we love each other. He is now a district manager for his company in the area that we just moved to and bought a new house. I left my job and followed him (of course). How did I get through it?? With patience, love, prayer and support—if you can find it. And if you can find it…I STRONGLY recommend it!
Always keep God between you. Others will not have any idea what you are going through, but will want to vocalize their opinions about what you should or shouldn’t do. They are not living your life nor have any idea about your situation. So ignore them and continue to do what is best for you and yours. If you have found the right person, love can be a wonderful thing.
Peace and blessings!