Share (Blog)

Share (Blog)

Insatiable: What Prince Taught Me about Erotic Love (Reprint)

Posted on April 20, 2017 at 6:30 PM

Insatiable: What Prince Taught Me about Erotic Love (Reprint from April 22, 2016)

by dr. terri

By now we all have heard about the sudden passing of the legendary icon—Prince Rogers Nelson (a.k.a. Prince). Like most people, I was just dumbfounded when I got the news. A world with no Prince? In my lifetime? What?! This has to be what it sounds like when doves cry. And my heart has been crying right along with them.


Honestly, when I consider my coming of age years, they were every bit of the 80s; and the 80s were every bit of Prince. His music was at the heart of my lifetime-in-the-making. However, I’m not here to write about the obvious music genius that most people will discuss over the coming days as he is memorialized. No, I’m here to discuss his sensual vibration and what his lyrics taught me not only as I made my entrance into womanhood but as I began to embrace the beauty of erotic love.




This month at StillSoSexy!, we’re talking about Our Bodies, Our Belongings. Yet, I cannot cover this topic without highlighting Prince, the king of melodious erotica, and his influence on my appreciation for erotic love. Dare I say, in some ways, his music introduced me to the world of erotology? In fact, I can remember buying my first Prince album—Controversy (1981)—when I was in high school. I played "Do Me Baby" over and over and over again (and mind you that's when you had to lift the record player needle to start the song at just the right spot). I tell you, that song was everything to me at the time. To hear a man sing so passionately about sexual intimacy to some hardcore funky vibrations (all while not making my femininity feel dirty and used) made me want to read more about eroticism.


What I found out from my reading back then was eroticism isn't as much about the sexual act itself as it is about the asthetics of everything surrounding the act of lovemaking. It is about the many beautiful forms of human expression that create our sexual desire for one another. And "Do Me Baby" definitely expressed that creation. Certainly, there would be many more songs thereafter which would continue to pique my curiosity. The list is endless. But if I had to pick one that really encapsulates what Prince taught me about erotic love, it is Insatiable (Diamonds and Pearls, 1991). By the time it was released, I was 20-something and had a bit more experience to go alongside my reading. With this being said, the song's lyrics bring to life five lessons that I want to share with you:


1. Hey, don't look at the clock. Yeah, it's 2:45. We got all night. Prince always made it clear that time was an important part of intimacy. And there is nothing more erotic to a woman than being with a man who regularly has time for her—and not just time for her body but time for every aspect of her life. So his music taught me that erotic love is conscious—it makes a plan to stay awhile so the time spent together is always full and rich with attentiveness and awareness.


2. I just can’t stop, even if I wasn’t thirsty, I’d drink every drop. Prince knew how to stay right there until they both drank it all and they both thirsted no more. Phew! What can one say about a man who won’t just get his and leave a woman looking at the ceiling as he snores? To have a man put a woman to sleep first, or even better, to have them fall asleep together is pure ecstacy. So his music taught me that erotic love is complete—it works to get all parties across the finish line again and again and again.


3. You say you want my hips up in the air? I don't know. I don't care. Prince wasn’t afraid to let his manhood be seen as subordinate in the bedroom. He would sing about trying anything at least once. And I’m a firm believer that a woman will become extremely comfortable with her body and sense of belonging in a relationship, when she’s with a man who is extremely comfortable with his own sexuality. When that level of comfort is reached, she is wide open for practically anything she feels is nondegrading to her. So his music taught me that erotic love is creative—it will always desire to give new things a try when there is a sense of security and transparency.


4. Tonight we video. No one will ever know. We'll erase the naughty bits. I'll show my ___, if you show your ___. Prince could convince even the most bashful woman to trust her bareness with him. Think about it. Who among his love affairs ever dished the dirt on him? And in return, he never dished the dirt on any of them. Needless to say, for many women this quality is crucial when it comes to our sexual psyche. After all, for a lot of us "good girls" growing up, we feared the guys who would put us on blast for even the slightest display of sexual affection. So his music taught me that erotic love is confidential—it believes in discretion and it honors privacy even within a public relationship.


5. Listen, oh girl, I'm fallin'! I love you. Baby you're mine. You’re nastier than I thought. It's just 2:49. Prince was not ashamed of four letter words or of alphabetizing them. In other words, he understood those moments when the F-word came before the L-word. Yes, I know. The idea of steamy, nasty, hot sex happening before real committed love appears goes against all sound moral judgement for many of us. But guess what? It does happen—maybe not always, but it can and does happen. So his music taught me that erotic love is curative—it has a healing virtue that can turn a single moment of sensual-sexual pleasure between two mature people into a beautiful lifetime surprise for the two of them.


In the final analysis, when I think of learning to be comfortable in my body and having a sense of belonging within a relationship, I can’t help but to think of Prince and his music. His music made a woman feel comfortable with every inch of her body and with her right to belong in an enraptured bond. Through his music, he was not afraid to be transparent in his own weaknesses while also being fearless in his strengths. No doubt, he will be missed by us all. Yet, I am grateful for the body of music he left, along with the sensual vibrations and lyrics, which will always remind me of this simple truth that I learned way back in the 80s: erotic love has the power to be melodiously beautiful for a lifetime.

Rest in Peace your Royal "Purple" Badness!



********************

"The erotic is a resource within each of us that lies in a deeply female and spiritual plane,

firmly rooted in the power of our unexpressed or unrecognized feeling. [...] For women,

this has meant a suppression of the erotic as a considered source of power and information within our lives."

~ Audre Lorde (The Uses of the Erotica)

********************


dr. terri is an educator, empowerment writer, and entrepreneur,

who provides education planning, writing guidance, and life-mapping services to the sisterhood and those they love.

To learn more about her services, visit www.withdrterri.com. For the online women's center, visit www.stillsosexy.com.


Categories: None

Post a Comment

Oops!

Oops, you forgot something.

Oops!

The words you entered did not match the given text. Please try again.

58684 Comments

Reply supreme clothing
12:25 AM on December 3, 2022 
I wanted to write a simple remark so as to appreciate you for the great strategies you are placing on this site. My incredibly long internet research has at the end been honored with awesome facts to go over with my family. I would claim that most of us readers actually are very much blessed to be in a notable website with many awesome people with great secrets. I feel quite blessed to have seen your entire webpage and look forward to so many more cool moments reading here. Thank you again for a lot of things.
supreme clothing http://www.supremenewyork.us.com
Reply golden goose sneakers
12:39 AM on December 3, 2022 
Thanks a lot for giving everyone remarkably wonderful possiblity to read from this website. It's usually so enjoyable and also stuffed with a great time for me and my office peers to search your website at least 3 times weekly to learn the new items you will have. Of course, we're always contented considering the incredible opinions served by you. Some two tips in this post are indeed the most suitable I've ever had.
golden goose sneakers http://www.goldengoosesneakerssale.us.com
Reply off white x nike
1:12 AM on December 3, 2022 
I not to mention my pals happened to be going through the excellent recommendations on the website and so before long I got a horrible feeling I had not expressed respect to the website owner for those tips. Those men ended up happy to read all of them and have surely been tapping into them. I appreciate you for genuinely considerably thoughtful as well as for picking out varieties of good issues most people are really eager to be informed on. My personal honest apologies for not expressing appreciation to sooner.
off white x nike http://www.nikexoffwhite.com
Reply off white outlet
1:39 AM on December 3, 2022 
I would like to get across my affection for your generosity in support of women who have the need for guidance on this field. Your special commitment to getting the message along was definitely powerful and has in every case empowered many people just like me to achieve their aims. Your own valuable help signifies so much a person like me and additionally to my office workers. Thank you; from everyone of us.
off white outlet http://www.offwhites.us.com
Reply goyard store
1:56 AM on December 3, 2022 
My spouse and i have been absolutely relieved that Jordan managed to complete his analysis with the precious recommendations he received from your own blog. It is now and again perplexing to simply possibly be handing out strategies which usually other people have been selling. And we take into account we need the blog owner to appreciate for that. The type of illustrations you've made, the straightforward site menu, the friendships your site help to promote - it is all fantastic, and it's letting our son in addition to our family feel that the concept is amusing, which is unbelievably important. Thanks for the whole thing!
goyard store http://www.goyardsstoreonline.com
Reply palm angels hoodie
2:11 AM on December 3, 2022 
My spouse and i ended up being ecstatic Louis could round up his investigations because of the precious recommendations he came across using your web page. It is now and again perplexing just to find yourself freely giving thoughts which people today could have been making money from. And now we discover we've got you to give thanks to because of that. All of the illustrations you made, the straightforward site menu, the friendships you assist to promote - it's got all astounding, and it's really leading our son in addition to the family understand the subject matter is fun, which is certainly particularly mandatory. Thanks for the whole lot!
palm angels hoodie http://www.palmangels-outlet.com
Reply chrome hearts online
2:31 AM on December 3, 2022 
I'm just commenting to make you understand of the outstanding experience my daughter gained using yuor web blog. She figured out plenty of things, which included what it is like to possess a very effective coaching mindset to let most people without problems learn certain extremely tough matters. You undoubtedly surpassed visitors' expected results. Many thanks for imparting such informative, healthy, explanatory and as well as fun tips on that topic to Sandra.
chrome hearts online http://www.chromehearts.com.co
Reply golden goose
6:13 AM on December 3, 2022 
Thank you for each of your hard work on this web site. Ellie takes pleasure in conducting investigations and it's simple to grasp why. A number of us notice all concerning the compelling medium you present valuable thoughts through the website and in addition welcome response from people on that area so our own simple princess is in fact being taught so much. Have fun with the rest of the new year. You're conducting a splendid job.
golden goose http://www.goldengooses.us
Reply kyrie shoes
6:24 AM on December 3, 2022 
I actually wanted to write down a quick remark to be able to express gratitude to you for all of the awesome secrets you are placing at this website. My considerable internet look up has now been compensated with reputable concept to talk about with my companions. I would tell you that we site visitors actually are very much fortunate to live in a wonderful community with many lovely professionals with insightful points. I feel rather privileged to have seen your weblog and look forward to some more exciting moments reading here. Thank you once more for a lot of things.
kyrie shoes http://www.kyrieirvingshoes.us.com
Reply off white clothing
6:25 AM on December 3, 2022 
I simply desired to thank you so much once more. I do not know what I would have worked on in the absence of the type of recommendations revealed by you on my concern. It has been a real horrifying setting in my circumstances, but seeing this specialised form you treated the issue made me to weep over delight. Now i'm happy for this support and wish you recognize what a great job that you're getting into teaching many others using your web site. I am certain you haven't come across any of us.
off white clothing http://www.offwhiteoutlet.us.org
Reply off white shoes
6:49 AM on December 3, 2022 
I and my guys were actually checking the good ideas located on the website and then suddenly developed a horrible feeling I never thanked the blog owner for those techniques. The men are already certainly very interested to read all of them and now have certainly been enjoying them. Many thanks for turning out to be quite accommodating and then for opting for varieties of fabulous issues most people are really needing to discover. My personal honest regret for not expressing gratitude to sooner.
off white shoes http://www.off---whiteshoes.com
Reply golden goose
8:30 AM on December 3, 2022 
I'm just writing to let you know of the excellent discovery my child developed viewing your blog. She discovered plenty of things, which included what it is like to have an amazing giving mindset to let the mediocre ones quite simply know just exactly chosen hard to do matters. You truly surpassed readers' desires. I appreciate you for delivering these powerful, safe, explanatory and even unique thoughts on your topic to Janet.
golden goose http://www.goldengoose-shoes.us.com
Reply golden goose shoes
9:32 AM on December 3, 2022 
I simply had to thank you very much yet again. I am not sure the things I might have implemented in the absence of the points discussed by you directly on this theme. It was a real fearsome issue in my position, nevertheless noticing a specialized style you treated the issue forced me to leap for contentment. Now i am happier for this work and as well , pray you comprehend what a great job you happen to be undertaking instructing others through the use of your webblog. I am sure you haven't met any of us.
golden goose shoes http://www.goldengooseoutlets.us
Reply cheap jordans
9:40 AM on December 3, 2022 
I am commenting to make you know of the outstanding experience our princess gained going through the blog. She realized a lot of pieces, which included how it is like to possess a very effective helping nature to get the mediocre ones just completely grasp various specialized issues. You actually did more than her desires. Many thanks for distributing these helpful, healthy, explanatory and also fun thoughts on your topic to Evelyn.
cheap jordans http://www.cheap-airjordans.us.com
Reply air jordan
10:49 AM on December 3, 2022 
I wish to show thanks to you for bailing me out of such a issue. As a result of looking out through the the net and meeting techniques which are not pleasant, I believed my entire life was well over. Being alive without the presence of solutions to the difficulties you have solved by means of the short post is a critical case, as well as those that would have in a wrong way affected my career if I hadn't encountered your blog post. Your good mastery and kindness in handling everything was very useful. I'm not sure what I would've done if I had not come upon such a subject like this. I can also at this moment look forward to my future. Thank you very much for your impressive and result oriented guide. I won't hesitate to suggest the sites to anybody who wants and needs assistance on this topic.
air jordan http://www.airjordansstore.com
Reply supreme
10:52 AM on December 3, 2022 
I as well as my buddies have been checking the best items located on your web page then the sudden got a horrible suspicion I never thanked you for those strategies. Most of the boys appeared to be so excited to learn them and have seriously been making the most of those things. We appreciate you actually being quite kind and then for opting for variety of really good ideas millions of individuals are really wanting to learn about. My very own sincere regret for not expressing appreciation to you earlier.
supreme http://www.supremeclothing.us.org
Reply kobe shoes
10:59 AM on December 3, 2022 
I'm also writing to make you understand what a awesome experience my girl found studying your web page. She mastered numerous details, including how it is like to have an awesome giving style to get folks quite simply learn about a number of extremely tough topics. You truly did more than her expected results. Thank you for rendering those helpful, trustworthy, educational and fun thoughts on that topic to Sandra.
kobe shoes http://www.kobesneakers.com
Reply air jordan
1:30 PM on December 3, 2022 
I definitely wanted to develop a small message so as to express gratitude to you for all the fantastic techniques you are placing at this site. My time intensive internet investigation has at the end of the day been compensated with extremely good information to write about with my colleagues. I would admit that most of us website visitors are definitely lucky to exist in a fine site with many marvellous individuals with very helpful solutions. I feel really privileged to have encountered your entire web page and look forward to so many more enjoyable times reading here. Thanks a lot again for all the details.
air jordan http://www.airjordansstore.com
Reply yeezy
1:38 PM on December 3, 2022 
I'm also writing to make you be aware of of the impressive discovery my friend's girl undergone viewing your web site. She mastered several things, which include what it's like to possess a great coaching nature to have other individuals easily learn about chosen grueling matters. You actually did more than visitors' expectations. Thanks for providing such great, trusted, informative and even cool thoughts on this topic to Evelyn.
yeezy http://www.yeezy-shoes.us.org
Reply supreme clothing
2:27 PM on December 3, 2022 
My spouse and i felt really happy Emmanuel could round up his preliminary research through your ideas he obtained from your own web page. It's not at all simplistic to just happen to be giving for free secrets that many the rest have been selling. And we all fully understand we have got you to give thanks to for this. Most of the illustrations you made, the simple website menu, the relationships you make it possible to promote - it is most terrific, and it's aiding our son in addition to us reason why this content is thrilling, and that is rather essential. Thank you for all the pieces!
supreme clothing http://www.supremeshoodie.com